by Calvin D. Banyan
Hello Everybody,
This is Cal Banyan’s Hypnosis, Etc., with Celeste Hackett. It’s the hypnosis show on the internet where we go over what’s new and interesting in the field of Hypnosis and try to give you a little Hypnosis training while we’re at it. Alright, if you’re not watching this program on www.calbanyan.com you’ll probably want to check out the website because right down there underneath this video we’ve got text and links that are part of the program so you don’t want to miss out go to www.calbanyan.com
I have a surprise announcement today, and the surprise announcement is Celeste Hackett is so busy with clients that we couldn’t schedule any time together to do our program. So I put my thinking cap on and I thought who I could get to stand in that would be fun, interesting and beautiful. And so let me tell you who I’ve got, well, let’s see, I’ve got some notes here on her bio, it says, she is a Hypnotists who just recently returned from China where she was teaching English, she’s a recent graduate of George Washington University, in George Washington D.C., she’s been involved in Hypnosis indirectly since at least 1996 and that’s because she’s my daughter, Kelsey Banyan.
Cal: Say hello Kelsey.
Kelsey: Hi.
Cal: So how do you feel about me roping you into doing this?
Kelsey: Well, I figure it’s kind of my role as the daughter to help out in every way that I can.
Cal: That’s right, but wonderful, so let’s see, I know what I’d like you to do. One of the things we’ve talked about before the show was some of the feedback we’ve gotten from on the www.calbanyan.com website about the show. Would you mind reading some of that to our audience?
Kelsey: Well I guess I can do a couple. Josh Haden says, thank you for taking time to answer my question Cal and Celeste, I feel so special now. You’ve answered all of the questions that I had about this issue and once again thanks for the show, P.S., I really enjoyed the dumb Hypnotist tricks and I can not wait until the next show.
Cal: Wow, that’s really nice feedback; maybe we’ll get some good feedback about having you on the show I hope.
Kelsey: I hope so, alright. Debbie Effie also says, Cal and Celeste, LOL that was fun of course. I’m watching these videos because I’m addicted to them, but this one was really fun to hear Celeste and Cal giving me a big hello and telling folks about our workshop here with Tom Nicolai and yes I do feel good don’t I?
Cal: Oh, that sounds like an inside joke. Tell everybody why she said that.
Kelsey: Because, oh, now you’re putting me on the spot.
Cal: I’m going to do that.
Kelsey: When we’re taking clients out of Hypnosis, one of the very first things you say to them is and you do feel good don’t you, or so I’ve been instructed over the past couple weeks.
Cal: That’s right, that’s right. Hey so you’re going to start working here at the Banyan Hypnosis Center, how do you feel about that?
Kelsey: Kind of nervous, I’m excited though, because finally when someone asks me oh, what do your parents do, I can say my dad is a Hypnotists. Oh, that’s great, has he hypnotized you, can you Hypnotize me? I can be like actually I can, instead of being like well, no. So, it’ll be exciting, it’s going to be a nice adventure I think, looking forward to it.
Cal: I think it’s going to be fun I’m looking forward to it. Also, I mean all of these years you’ve kind of gone through school and all of your friends had these boring parents who were like Engineers or Doctors or I don’t know like Congressmen and stuff and you had the cool dad who is the Hypnotist, isn’t that right?
Kelsey: Well, of course, I have to say that though, but you have been the cool dad. I mean, who else’s dad does Photography, plays Bass, is a Hypnotist, I mean no one else can really brag that.
Cal: Yeah, you have a lot you can talk about with the old man. Alright, well I’m sure we’re boring everyone to death; we need to move on to some Hypnosis information. I had you dig around in the ask cal at www.ourhypnospace.com and other places on the internet to see if you could come up with some good questions. Ahhh, why don’t you give me an idea of one or two that you’d like to have answered?
Kelsey: Ahm, one of them is about stuffing too many things into a session like how many techniques should you use or how much is too much? And another one is about direct suggestion, which is what I’m going to be doing in a couple of days, and going to be starting that. Is when do you know when to stop? Like when are you saying too much, or just bothering on, and on? I think those are a couple ones that I would definitely benefit from right off the bat.
Cal: Ahhh, ok. Ahm, well, let me see. Let’s take for example the direct suggestion session. And as you know, because you’ve been studying 5-PATH® and that’s called Phase 1 and what we really want to do is have specific goals of what we want to do in that first session. And what we want to do is, we want to do is preparation, testing, and convincing. And what we do is we want to make sure of course that the pre-talk is done which is there to remove any kind of inhibiting beliefs or fears that the client might have and we like to do that with a video either on DVD or video tape so that, you know, the general information gets done, that’s how we do it here at our center.
And then when the client comes in, we want to start off the session with something like this, gosh, you just watched a video tape called The truth about Hypnosis, do you have any questions about Hypnosis? And when we send them in to watch the video, we give them a little yellow notepad and they’re able to write down any questions because you want to get rid of any fears that they might have about Hypnosis, because that’ll inhibit a good Hypnosis session.
And secondly, you want to get rid of any misperceptions they might have, for example they might think that they’re suppose to be unconscious when they’re in Hypnosis and of course they’re not, they’re very much awake and alert just focused on what you’re doing. Then what you want to do is you want to get a client history of the problem and I like to use the technique of saying please give me a thumbnail sketch of the history of the problem.
How it started, what you’ve tried to work with the problem, what’s worked, what hasn’t worked and that kind of thing, because I want to get a brief history. Here’s an important point, don’t believe everything they say, what they’re telling you is they’re best guess. The real information is to the cause is going to be revealed in Phase 2, in the Age Regression work. And the rest of the time you just want to get that information and then you go right into the Hypnosis.
Too many Hypnotists and Consulting Hypnotists, what they do is they spend too much time talking about themselves because they think that is going to build repo ire. I firmly believe and my experience bares it out that if you are very interested in your client and you’re being nonjudgmental about what they’re telling you then you know what, you’re going to build the relationship you need and that’s a hypnotic relationship.
You’re not there to be their friend you’re there to be the best helping professional that you can be. Once you’ve got that information and you’ve built that trust then you want to do the assessment for readiness of Hypnosis and that’s simply asking them would you like to do Hypnosis with me now? Don’t ask them are you ready to do Hypnosis, if you ask them that you’re asking them to make up the assessment. You’re the professional, you want to make the assessment and so you say would you like to do Hypnosis with me now?
Watch their response, they should be eager to do it, they should look like they’re eager to do it, they should sound like they’re eager to do it. The word should be something like, yeah, let’s get on with it! And Kelsey you just got through watching a video example of me doing that with a client was that helpful for you?
Kelsey: I think it was really helpful; it was nice to be able to see the different seg ways from all the pieces of information you need to cover in the Pre-Hypnosis interview, in addition to just kind of going over like left over questions from the Pre-Talk.
Cal: Good, good, good, alright, so I hope that helps our…. Where did you get that question from about what you do in the Pre-Hypnosis Interview?
Kelsey: Umh, that was just kind of my own. I have my first big session tomorrow, so I’m trying to figure out exactly what all should be covered when I’m talking too much about myself and not enough about the client.
Cal: Oh, so you get some special treatment, huh?
Kelsey: Yeah, a little bit.
Cal: Good, well, you get too chose, you’re in charge when it comes to the questions. Do you have another question you’d like to ask me or is there something, you know, that you got from one of the groups?
Kelsey: Umh, well there is one question that I’m interested in and it’s actually from www.askcal.ourhypnospace.com and it’s when doing direct suggestion, how do you know when to stop? Sometimes I feel like I’m blathering on and on and I worry that I may end up confusing or boring the client by tossing in too many metaphors and suggestions. So when do you know that you’ve done enough scripts and that you’ve done telling them the benefits?
Cal: Ahh, that’s a very good question; well you know you should always have a time limit for your sessions. You should be thinking I’m going to spend to you know an hour with my client or an hour and a half or two hours whatever you plan, of course you’ve got to stay within that. And that would include the Pre-Hypnosis interview and the Post Hypnotic Interview also. And so you should have an idea of how much time you want to spend in the actual session.
Then of course you subtract from that the time you spend inducing Hypnosis and Deepening and so let’s not think so much in terms of quantity of time, but the quality of time you’re spending with the client. During the Pre-Hypnosis Interview you should be getting the information from the client about specifically what is their goal and what changes they’re willing to make to achieve those goals? And if the session is being restricted to just direct suggestion Hypnosis and that means of course they’re just in Hypnosis and you do all the talking and you say you know now you’re going to do this or now you are confident and these kinds of things.
What you want to do is focus on quality, and that is you are giving them the suggestions that they want. And then if you’re giving them the suggestions that they want, I don’t think you can over do it, I mean unless you are driving yourself crazy. For example, is the technique where you just say the same suggestion over and over again like for example you might say, you are now a non-smoker? And you can say that over and over again, until you, you want to, you know, go crazy.
But the subconscious mind of the individual and the Hypnosis loves that repetition. Repetition is one way that we write to the subconscious mind of the long term memory. So as long as you are on topic and you’re staying within some kind of reasonable limits of what you’ve set for the session, 1 hour to 2hours that’s including the Pre-Talk, Pre-Hypnosis Interview, time for after the session, then you can just keep laying it on.
Another quality issue is that you don’t want to work on too many changes at once. For example if you’re working with someone who wants to lose weight, we don’t want to get too many things going at once. For example, maybe you want to have them restrict eating to one place, and then you decide you want them to chew the food very slowly, and then you decide you want them to exercise everyday and then you want them to have only so many grams of carbohydrates and they just need to take their vitamins, and you just keep adding all of these things.
The more things you suggest to them, the more you dilute the effectiveness of the Hypnosis for any one thing. So I suggest you pick two or three changes that you want to make like exercise, like motivation, and like sticking to their meal plan or diet. And when you do that, get that going, really hammer in those suggestions and then next session you can find out how their doing and if they want to add something. How’s that Kelsey?
Kelsey: Sounds pretty good, I think everything I needed to know, really.
Cal: Good, good. Hey you got a dumb Hypnotist trick for me today?
Kelsey: Umm, well, we were kind of discussing something earlier, and one thing that I was kind of becoming aware of after many, many conventions. Is that a lot of times Hypnotists kind of bog down their entire professional office experience with a lot of mumbo jumbo that doesn’t really have anything to do with the Hypnosis practice.
Cal: Ahhh, that’s a very good observation. Kelsey how many National Guild of Hypnotists Conventions have you been too?
Kelsey: Probably around 5 or 6, a lot.
Cal: Yeah, you’ve been to more Conventions than most Hypnotists, I think.
Kelsey: Quite possible.
Cal: Quite possibly, yes, ok, yeah. You know what; you need to make a decision in your practice and that is, gosh, are you going to be a Hypnotist or are you going to be a whole bunch of things? You can carry it off to where you do a whole bunch of things but if it starts being too spooky, too weird, then you’re really going to alienate, that’s an interesting word alienate a lot of people. When we put together The Banyan Hypnosis Center, we had to make some strategic decisions and among those decisions were how we’re going to present ourselves.
And we decided to present ourselves as being professional. The decision was made because we wanted to have the maximum number of clients making the maximum number of referrals. We really wanted to set up a center where someone would come and then after their success feel comfortable at referring their mother, father, sister, brother, cousin, doctor, children to our center. And if we had a lot of spooky stuff lying around, that’s just not going to be the case.
We don’t want to have you know, alien abduction posters and books on the counter on how to do Past Life Regression, Spirit Releasement Hypnotherapy and all that kind of stuff. Now between me and you I don’t think there is anything wrong with that, but if you decide to publish and promote yourself as doing those things, you’re probably going to lose a great deal of potential clients. And that thing, those are people you are not going to be able to help, so what you want to do, is you want to present yourself, if you want the best practice you can possibly have in a professional way.
Keep as Kelsey says the mumbo jumbo out of the receiving area, don’t put it prominently in your office; don’t place it in your ads. Let me tell you what, Hypnosis is a magnet and the people who want to do alien abduction regressions and past life regression regressions and want to work on their demonic attachments they’re going to find you and so you’re not going to have to advertise that. Good is that what you meant Kelsey?
Kelsey: That’s pretty much it, yeah.
Cal: Anything you can add to that?
Kelsey: Umm, I don’t know, I don’t know if I’ve seen enough really to tell you much else.
Cal: Ok, good, well I think that this will be a nice little short first Hypnosis, Etc. I want to thank you for helping us out, and what I’m going to do is I’m going to have you stick around, and I’d like to record another one just in case Hackett can’t come back next week, would that be ok with you?
Kelsey: Yeah, that would be great with me.
Cal: Great. Alright, ahhh, before I sign off, let me give you a couple of announcements, and that is please checkout some of our other websites www.hypnosis.org. We are completely revamping it www.hypnosis.org.
We put the ORG in Hypnosis; we’re going to be putting lots and lots of new resources there so we’ll have some great links pages and stuff like that. Please go to www.hypnosiscenter.com to get a list of all of our classes. We have Certification classes going on throughout the year; we have people who teach our course all around the world, we also have our week of power course, we’ve got one coming up in a few days.
Ahhh, but it doesn’t matter when you’re listening to this, you could be listening to it now, or next week, or next year. You can always to go www.hypnosiscenter.com and get our latest schedule. And also we have www.banyanhypnosismall.com where you can also get not just my stuff but what, books, tapes, CD’s, DVD’s from many different well known professionals and trainers in the world of Hypnotism.
And finally a little plug for my newest project and that is www.thesecretlanguageoffeelings.com where I talk about a rational approach to interacting with your emotions. Learn that information; you’ll have an unfair advantage over everyone that you know. Kelsey say good bye.
Kelsey: Bye.
And this is Cal Banyan, signing off.
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